Yesterday I said “Be positive! Find a way to be positive no matter the circumstances! Speak words of faith and life.” as a way to get your mojo back. Today I’ve had to evaluate if all the relationships I have are healthy or not. I have some people in my life that are not healthy. And it is because they are negative. Jon Gordon said “Being positive won’t guarantee you’ll succeed. But being negative will guarantee you won’t.” I have made up my mind that the plans I have will succeed. And that is the first part of guaranteeing that I will succeed. Of course there is more to it than that, but once I made the decision to be successful what I had to do became clear. I’m reading the book “Motivation Manifesto” by Brendon Burchard. One of the quotes in this book is this “Why do we allow others to control us so much? “We gave away pieces of our integrity in order to get along with others.” One of the ways we do this is to hang out with negative people. Why do we do this? I asked myself this today and I’ve been thinking about it. We do it for several reasons, in my opinion.
1. It is easier in the short run. Negative people won’t encourage you to change.
2. It is comfortable.
3. We are lonely.
4. We feel like we can help them. But the reality is, we can’t help anyone who doesn’t want help.
So what have I been doing?
1. I started making healthier friends. So what is a healthy friend?
a. He or she is mindful of what they say and do
b. They manage their lives instead of their lives managing them
c. They take time to take care of themselves: they eat right, exercise, and take mental health seriously
2. I started reading books that taught me how to take care of myself. And I asked my new friends what they were reading too. And to suggest books that would be good for me to read.
3. I started learning new ways to be healthy.
4. I started cutting people out of my life that chose to stay negative. It is one thing to be negative but wanting to and being willing to change. It is another thing to say you want to be healthy but be unwilling to change.
5. I cut out negative influences, such as the news. Now I do pay attention to news events that impact me or my family, but I don’t dwell on it.
6. I started doing things that I enjoy. That is why I started blogging. I enjoy this!
So, in order to be healthy, you will have to find the positive in life. Lots of medical studies have confirmed this. I’ve been told that I’m wrong by being so deliberately positive. This person says that life has problems and you can’t ignore them. I don’t ignore problems. But, I don’t focus on them constantly either. I simply have learned to deal with them as rapidly as they come up.
Living a healthy life has to start with eliminating the negative. You can do it!