When What You’ve Been Doing Hasn’t Worked

What do you do when what you been doing hasn’t worked as well as you planned? The bible says that A man’s heart plans his way, But the Lord directs his steps (Proverbs 16:9) Sometimes our plans don’t come through the way we planned. Does that mean you give up? Of course not. It means that you try another way. In 2015 I made my plans and some of them became a reality. One was that I wanted to make healthier friends. I really did accomplish that goal. I love the new friends I have! If you follow me or are my friend on Facebook earlier today I did an appreciation post on some of them. Sometimes you have to change who you are friends with. In Girl Scouts as a child I learned the song “Make New Friends.” The words to this song are:

“Make new friends,

But keep the old.

One is silver and the other’s gold.”

Both are very valuable. But sometimes you have to let go of friends that really aren’t your friends. Those are the one that are nicknamed “crabs.” These are the ones who will drag you down and keep you down. They have a problem with anyone who better’s themselves. If you have anyone in your life that is that way, do yourself a favor, and get rid of them. You deserve better.

But another goal I set was to get to a certain level in my business. That goal wasn’t reached. But I’m now revising how I can make that goal become a reality in this coming year. I’m getting help from some of my leaders, one who is a new friend also. I’m continuing to pray. And with the new plans I’m not doubting that I will reach this goal.

What goals do you need to revisit? Is what you’ve been doing working? If not, maybe you need to look at another way. Be blessed!


Breakout 2016!!!

We are 12 days from 2016. This past Wednesday I was on a women’s call with a new friend named Michelle Teague and two network marketing leaders with Modere named Michelle Barns and Sarah Zolecki.  The topic was Breaking out in 2016. Three points were focused on and they are worth repeating.
Point one was the past is in the past. Leave it there. God didn’t put our eyes behind us. That is a reminder that we need to look forward. Let the past go. Sometimes that isn’t easy! But it is needed! You can’t do anything about it anyway. Learn to forgive. And remember to work on yourself. Have confidence that what you are doing will work out in the end. I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again: Do what you can, and God will always do what you can’t!
The second point was have a new strategy. If what you have been doing hasn’t worked, try something new. Sometimes that will include letting go of people, even people you were close to at one time. Focus on one new thing. What is your DMO? DMO stands for Daily Method of Operations. Track what you’re doing. Do your actions match your expectations? If they don’t, change them. But make small changes. Huge changes may not be needed. By making small changes you will see the changes faster. And you will know if what you are doing is working or not and you can change what needs to be changed sooner.
The third point was about accountability. You need to be accountable to someone: first and foremost to yourself. But you also need an accountability partner. This needs to be someone that will tell you what you can do differently and encourage you when you need it. This can be a friend, a business partner, your spouse or significant other. But it needs to be someone that will tell you what you need to hear, good or bad.
In closing, you need to have unshakable belief that what you are doing will succeed! And you have to believe that success is your friend. Have a fantastic year!

BHAG: Part 3

Big Hairy Audacious Goals: Yesterday I talked about having a vision. And that is critical. But along with that, you also need to have the steps written out to reach the goals. And that is how your vision will become a reality.  So when you have your goals written out, where do you go from there? You become brave. You step out and begin to do what you have to do to see them become a reality. But remember to make it simple. If you do this, you will  become a leader. So, you will need to make sure you keep your goals and the way you make them happen, simple and easy to duplicate. Consider this picture:

Boss Leader

In this picture, notice where the boss is compared to the leader. The boss is giving orders. Whereas the leader is helping the team go forward. Which will lead  to greater success? Almost anyone can become a boss. But to be a leader requires you to be brave. To have confidence in your abilities and to be willing to learn. Consider this diagram:

boss or leader

One thing I’ve also learned that there are different styles of leadership. This diagram shows it.


For the rest of this series I am going to look at these closer. It is clear by now that being a leader is much better than being a boss. But while being a leader is better. Their is a great way to lead as well. I will elaborate on that tomorrow. Have a fantastic day and, as always, as Les Brown says, “You have greatness within you.”

Setting Big Hairy Audacious Goals

Habakkuk 2 verses 2 and 3 says “ Then the Lord answered me and said: “Write the vision And make it plain on tablets, That he may run who reads it For the vision is yet for an appointed time; But at the end it will speak, and it will not lie. Though it tarries, wait for it; Because it will surely come, It will not tarry.” What is the difference between a vision and a goal? I had to look this up. A vision is the big picture! I have a vision that everyone in my life will become healthier day by day. And not just in their bodies either. I want everyone to be healthier in their minds, spirit’s, bodies and finances. A goal is what I have to do in order to see my vision come to pass. Over time, the goals to reach my vision will become bigger and bigger. This picture shows what I mean:


 Yesterday I introduced BHAG, or Big Hairy Audacious Goals. This week I’m going to elaborate on this idea. Setting goals of any size is not complicated. But if it isn’t done, your life can not change for the better! I talk to Reggie from time to time about goal setting. He is incredibly good at it! He has goals set for every area of his life and he has taught me to do this also. Previously I have told you about my goals. But how do I set them? Again, here is a visual that I love that will show this.


What do you want your goal to be? Write it down! Then make a plan, get help if you need it! Get to work on what you’ve done and stick with it until you reach it. And remember, goals need to be big enough to push you, but not so big that you will want to give up before you reach it. This is where prayer comes in. There is an acronym for goal setting that I love: SMART. Here is a visual of it:


First, be specific. What exactly do you want? Next, make sure it is measurable. How can you tell if you have reached it? How can you tell? Third, is it achievable for you? Remember, what the mind can conceive and believe it can achieve! (Zig Zigler) So if you can see it in your mind, you can do it. Fourth, is it realistic? And what make it realistic is fifth: time. Are you trying to reach your goal in 3 months when it should be set for a year? Any goal you make up your mind to see happen can happen, but big goals typically will take longer to reach that smaller goals. So, set your Big Hairy Audacious Goals. And then get to work to make it happen! Like Les Brown says, “You have greatness within you!” You can do it!



According to Wikipedia a BHAG is “A Big Hairy Audacious Goal (BHAG) is a strategic business statement similar to a vision statement which is created to focus an organization on a single medium-long term organization-wide goal which is audacious, likely to be externally questionable, but not internally regarded as impossible.” Back in December I decided that 2015 was going to bring some huge changes. And I was going to find a way to get them to reality. So, where am I at? My business is growing. To find out how much you will have to contact me personally. I have written my first book and I’m working on my second one. I am working on this consistently. So how do you set a BHAG? You do it much the same as a small  goal. But go into it with the realization that short of a miracle, it will take a while to become a reality. Previously I told you that among the books I read on an ongoing basis is “Draw the Circle, the 40 Day Prayer Challenge.” On day 6 I was reading about shameless audacity. The bible passage related to this verse is Luke 11 verse 8 which reads “I tell you, even though he will not get up and give you the bread because of your shameless audacity he will surely get up and give you as much as you need.” In this passage, someone comes to your house in the middle of the night and asks for bread for his friend who has shown up. Keep in mind, in this time frame, all families slept in a single room and the neighbor is only a few feet away and would know if you had food available. So back to goals. I have been learning about doing this and this diagram works!


If you follow this, your goals will become a reality!  Write down the goals you have already achieved! That will help you see that the next set of goals will become a reality. Next, what is the next goal you want to achieve? Write it down!  Here is a challenge for you: make your next goal BIGGER than you think you can do! Also, when it comes to failures, let them be lessons, not losses. Here is what Michael “Air” Jordan said:


So what are you going to go after?


Are you going to shoot for the stars? Or not shoot for anything? I challenge you, no matter your circumstances, go after your dreams! Write them out. Make a dream board or 2. Set up a dream page on Facebook. You can see mine at Malissa’s Dream House. Make a plan to make it happen! The only way to fail, is to quit or never to start to begin with. Life is an adventure. Make it the best one you can imagine! As Les Brown says, “You have greatness within you!” So just go for it! What do you have to lose?

Priorites and Deciding What is Important

Before your mind can conceive and believe what you want you have to have to decide if you are willing to do what it takes for your dreams to become a reality. Do you want to have your dreams come true? Or are you just saying that you want this? I don’t know what you dream of. But what I do know is this: for your dreams to come true, you have to make them a priority. You have to decide what is important and what needs to happen for your dreams to happen. For example, one dream I have is to reach black belt in Chun Kuk Do. In order to do this I have to do the following steps.

1. I had to decide WHY I want this. By determining this, I will have the motivation I need to push through the times that I want to quit. My why is this:

    1. Because I know I will become healthier in my mind, soul and body.
    2. I believe in this program.
      1. The leaders follow God.
      2. I have personal access to Dr. Reggie Cochran who is one of the leaders and one of my closest friends.

I told Reggie a while back that I wanted him there when I test for black belt in Martial Arts. At that point it was for Tae Kwon Do. But I wanted even at that point to do Chun Kuk Do. I have chosen Chun Kuk Do even though there is no school near me. Since then I’ve started watching The Secret and I know that that movie is true! And since then, I found out that I can do this because there is a school that I can connect to that is online!

2. Then I had to write down the action steps to do this. Here is what I’ve written down.

    1. Get adrenals high enough to begin to train.
      1. Follow my diet.
      2. Take the vitamins I have to take.
      3. Get the rest I need.
      4. Do exactly what I’m told to. Luis wants me to be healthy and he has recovered from this himself. Luis is my friend, Dr. Luis Fuentes. Who is a doctor in Miami, Florida. But is for me, simply a friend. Next month my adrenal test will be re-ran to see where I’m at.
    2. Begin to train when I am healthy enough to do so.
    3. Train with the plan that I will reach black belt and mastery of each skill is required.
    4. Belt ranks in Chun Kuk Do:
      1. White
      2. Gold
      3. Purple
      4. Orange
      5. Blue
      6. Green
      7. Red
      8. Red with black stripe
      9. Black
        1. 10 degrees of black belt
          1. 5th degree black belt and above is considered master rank.
            1. Only Chuck Norris is 10th degree black belt at this time, I can be one also!

I have other goals as well. As I reach a new belt rank beginning at Gold, I will also have a reward for this. Having rewards is incredibly important! They will keep you motivated. But nothing is more important than having your priorities intact. Why do you want what you want? If your why is strong enough, then the priorities will be much easier to set up and along with that, deciding what is important will also be much easier. Steven Covey put it best:


So, are you going to go after the best? Or settle for good? The choice is yours. If I can help, let me know. Until next time. And remember, as Les Brown says, “You have greatness within you.”

Books, Books, and More Books!


I talk a lot about what I’m reading. Yesterday I said that I am reading about 4 books a month. Three on an ongoing basis. Well, I decided to tell you what I’m reading and what I’ve already read.

The three books I read on an on-going basis are these:

  1. The Bible
  2. Draw the Circle: The 40 Day Prayer Challenge” by Mark Batterson
  3. “Think and Grow Rich Today” Featuring Napoleon Hill and Leading Experts from Around The World. One of which is my adopted big brother, Reggie Cochran.

The other books are these:

  1. Making my First Ten Million by Brian Carruthers. I read this one in January.
  2. Building an Empire by Brian Carruthers. I also read this one in January.
  3. The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy. Read this in February, and a couple of times since then.
  4. The Slight Edge: Turning Simple Disciplines into Massive Success by Jeff Olson. Read in March.
  5. Money: Master the Game by Tony Robbins. I started reading this in April and I’m not quite done with this one yet.
  6. A Confident Heart by Renee Swope. I’m also currently reading this one.
  7. 13 Women You Should Never Marry by Mary Colbert. Read this one in April.
  8. Reversing Inflammation by Dr. Don Colbert. Read in April.
  9. Rock Bottom is a Beautiful Place: Testimonies of Triumph by Diane Cunningham and others
  10. Rock Bottom is a Beautiful Place 2: Living Your Calling by Diane Cunningham and others
  11. A  book written by a new friend named Chris. I’ll tell this one when it is released officially.

I have read a lot of other books as well. And this list is always growing.

Books I have on my reading list are these:

  1. The Carpenter: A story about the Greatest Success by Jon Gordon
  2. Amazing Grace Discovery by John J. Hadley
  3. Awaken the Giant Within: How to Take Immediate Control of Your Mental, Emotional, Physical and Financial Destiny by Tony Robbins
  4. The Desire Map: A Guide to Creating Goals with Soul by Danielle LaPorte
  5. Five Wishes by Gay Hendricks

I have MANY others on my list as well. Which will happen. So, what are you reading? I would love to know. Until next time…

Goal setting according to Dr. Reg

A little while ago Dr. Reggie Cochran posted this on Facebook. I’m so blessed to call him my friend & adopted big brother.

“Having no written goals (with action plans on how to accomplish them) is like trying to build a building without blueprints. Sure… there are a VERY small few who can do that. But MOST can’t. If you have written goals and are on track, pat yourself on the back. If not… mentally kick yourself in the butt, get off Facebook and take the time to actually design and plan your future. Then get up every day and work your plan. No Plan = more pain, poverty and poor performance. Written Plan = pleasure, prosperity and peak performance. It’s your life… your choice. So choose wisely my friend. Best of success…. Reg”

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