Insights from Baseball

My 12 year old son has been in a training league for baseball sponsored by The Fellowship of Christian Athletes, or FCA for short. You can learn a lot from baseball, and sports in general.

1. If you don’t get it right the first time, you can try again.

2. Life is about learning new things, so don’t be afraid to try something new.

3. There are different players and different positions, we don’t all have to do the same thing. We can be different.

4. The pitcher will throw different ways. You don’t have to swing at every pitch. And in life, you don’t have to go after every opportunity. Pick what you like best and go after that.

5. Not all games are the same. And not all lives are the same. Don’t compare your life to someone else’s.

This picture visualizes 6:

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Success will come to those who work for it. It isn’t given to you.

7. You can always come home, but not necessarily to stay put.

8. Teamwork allows the team to work at it full potential. Who is on your team? Like my friend Tammy Sellars says, “Teamwork makes the dream work!” Make sure you and your team are working together.

9. Don’t check out. The game isn’t over until it’s over. There are 9 innings, don’t quit at the end of the 8th. So keep on hitting until you get that Grand slam! You can do it! Just don’t quit!

Finding the Positive: Is it worth it?

Yesterday I said “Be positive! Find a way to be positive no matter the circumstances! Speak words of faith and life.” as a way to get your mojo back. Today I’ve had to evaluate if all the relationships I have are healthy or not. I have some people in my life that are not healthy. And it is because they are negative. Jon Gordon said “Being positive won’t guarantee you’ll succeed. But being negative will guarantee you won’t.” I have made up my mind that the plans I have will succeed. And that is the first part of guaranteeing that I will succeed. Of course there is more to it than that, but once I made the decision to be successful what I had to do became clear. I’m reading the book “Motivation Manifesto” by Brendon Burchard. One of the quotes in this book is this “Why do we allow others to control us so much? “We gave away pieces of our integrity in order to get along with others.”  One of the ways we do this is to hang out with negative people. Why do we do this? I asked myself this today and I’ve been thinking about it. We do it for several reasons, in my opinion.

1. It is easier in the short run. Negative people won’t encourage you to change.

2. It is comfortable.

3. We are lonely.

4. We feel like we can help them. But the reality is, we can’t help anyone who doesn’t want help.

So what have I been doing?

1. I started making healthier friends. So what is a healthy friend?

a. He or she is mindful of what they say and do

b. They manage their lives instead of their lives managing them

c. They take time to take care of themselves: they eat right, exercise, and take mental health seriously

2. I started reading books that taught me how to take care of myself. And I asked my new friends what they were reading too. And to suggest books that would be good for me to read.

3. I started learning new ways to be healthy.

4. I started cutting people out of my life that chose to stay negative. It is one thing to be negative but wanting to and being willing to change. It is another thing to say you want to be healthy but be unwilling to change.

5. I cut out negative influences, such as the news. Now I do pay attention to news events that impact me or my family, but I don’t dwell on it.

6. I started doing things that I enjoy. That is why I started blogging. I enjoy this!

So, in order to be healthy, you will have to find the positive in life. Lots of medical studies have confirmed this. I’ve been told that I’m wrong by being so deliberately positive. This person says that life has problems and you can’t ignore them. I don’t ignore problems. But, I don’t focus on them constantly either. I simply have learned to deal with them as rapidly as they come up.

Living a healthy life has to start with eliminating the negative. You can do it!

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What’s Mojo Got to Do With It?

About 10  years ago I lost my mojo. I was frustrated and just wanted to give up.  My life was in a tailspin that I felt like wouldn’t come to an end. My marriage was incredibly unhappy. Support was sporadic. My four kids at that point were all less than 10 years old. All of them were dealing with developmental delays. One had been diagnosed with autism. And we knew that the oldest was also autistic, although at that point it was undiagnosed. I gave up and settled in my mind that this was how life was going to be. I began to homeschool my kids during this time and I was able to find some support from that. But even that was sporadic. Not everyone I discovered supports homeschooling kids with disabilities. But I did find some support. And a few people who encouraged me to push on. Those were the ones I leaned on. On the outside I was always smiling. Giving the appearance that everything was fine. But on the inside I was crumbling. I was getting sick so often. I was crying constantly at home. Sleep was almost non-existent. Depression was unbelievable. This would be the case until 2011. Finally,  the day came that I couldn’t take anymore. It was fall, November I think,  when I finally hit rock bottom. I was sick. And I was sick and tired of being sick and tired. On that day, I sat on my bed and cried. Actually I hit rock bottom. And it saved my life. That day I told God to either take me home to Heaven or help me get better. I started following Dr. Don Colbert that day and my life hasn’t been the same every since.

Crying out to God is something many have done. But only a few actually stick with it. What do you do when you’ve lost your mojo? How do you take your life back? This picture is a humorous way of dealing with this:
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You have to decide that you are going to fight back. You may have to try some different things. But you can get your mojo back! So what are some things you can do?

1. Address the stressors in your life. Don’t pretend they don’t exist. In my life, one of the stressors was having kids with disabilities. I had to find some consistent support. And in time, I did. And over time I have developed some incredible friends who I jokingly tell they are “stuck with me.” These friends realize that I’m kidding over saying that, but also realize that I’m very serious.

2. Get a sense of humor. Learn to joke around. It is a great way to relieve stress which will help this.

3. Get a hobby.

4. Take an exercise class.

5. Hang out with healthy people. You will be like the five people you spend the most time with, so make sure that the people you hang out with are healthy: Mentally and physically.

6. Be positive! Find a way to be positive no matter the circumstances! Speak words of faith and life.

7. Use positive affirmations everyday! Speak them aloud. And frequently! At least once a day.

8. Eat healthy. Cut back on sugar. You will feel better and your mojo will begin to come back.

9. Read a book that makes you think! Currently I’m reading the book “The Motivation Manifesto” by Brendon Burchard. It is an amazing book! And is one I am recommending to everyone. By the way, you can learn from fiction too.

10. Learn about something that you are interested in.

11. Set some goals. Write them out! And be sure to put action steps with them and give yourself some rewards along the way.

12. What motivates you? Motivation comes from the inside. Not the outside.

You can come up with other things to do. This is a starting point though. You can get your mojo back because as Les Brown says, “YOU have greatness within you! Brainstorm on this and see if you can come up with other things you can do.

Public Service Announcement: Part 2

On June 4th I posted part 1 of this., only I thought at that time that it would just a single post.  Since then I’ve been brainstorming on what can be done to effectively deal with domestic violence. No one has the right to abuse another person. With words, actions, or a combination of the two. I’m a network marketer. And on the last post I put a challenge out there to get network marketing companies to step up and address this. But how can this be addressed in a way that can be used by any network marketing company? That is a dilemma. So I started thinking. In network marketing, no matter the company, you have customers and you have associates. Not everyone will be an associate. And some customers will become associates. So what can be done?

Imagine this: Amy is in an abusive relationship. Her significant other is verbally abusive. She wants to get out but doesn’t have a way to. Jack has her convinced that she can’t do anything. Her self-esteem is non-existent. Because he isn’t physically abusive she has no legal recourse. She can’t turn to the authorities. So she turns to her friend who is a network marketer. Her name is JulieAnn. JulieAnn wants to help. But because she is also new JulieAnn goes to some of the leaders in her company. Who agree that they want to help and get to work on a plan that will not only benefit Amy but others in similar situations. Here are 2 scenarios:

Scenario 1:

Amy doesn’t want to join as an associate. So JulieAnn’s company helps her financially get into a new apartment. And gets her some emotional support as well. In time, she will join the company because she saw that the company cared.

Scenario 2:

Amy decides to join as an associate but needs to get an income rapidly. So JulieAnn gives her the money to become an associate and very rapidly with the help of her upline and other leaders, she gets 2 or 3 associates of her own to get an income rapidly. But without much work on her part because she doesn’t have the experience to get this done as fast as possible.

 In another scenario Amy is being physically abused and is beaten bad enough to have to call an ambulance. JulieAnn gets a call from her and comes to her aid. She walks by her side as charges are pressed against Jack. JulieAnn gets Amy to somewhere safe. We assume that Jack knows that Amy will turn to her because they are already friends and JulieAnn’s house wouldn’t be safe. Preferably, if there is a leader that Jack doesn’t know about that is close by Amy can go stay with she will go that direction. If that isn’t an option, Amy will need to find a place to be safe at. That is first. Once Amy is safe, then the same options can be applied.

As network marketers we are in an industry that we connect with people on a personal level. We develop friendships and as a result our businesses grow. We are in a position to help these families. If someone comes to any of us, it is because the trust is already there. I know from first hand experience that asking for help IS NOT EASY. What I’m suggesting can work. If a person (male or female) reaches out for help, please help them. Many of us want to be successful. But are scared to trust anyone. We’ve been betrayed to many times. For many of us all we need, is a help up. And a little help to get started. Thank you.

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Speaking Life

1 Corinthians 13: “Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I have become sounding brass or a clanging cymbal. 2 And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3 And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, but have not love, it profits me nothing.

4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; 5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; 6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

8 Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part. 10 But when that which is perfect has come, then that which is in part will be done away.

11 When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things. 12 For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part, but then I shall know just as I also am known.

13 And now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love.”

Where is the division in this passage? Preach the Gospel at all times and when necessary use words. (St. Francis of Assisi) If you are showing love everywhere you go, success will follow!  You do the right things, and the right things will happen. And probably in a way you won’t expect. Have a blessed day everyone and remember that You do have greatness within you! (Les Brown)

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Small Changes= Better Life, part 4

Since I started this series on small changes to a better life I have focused a lot of this on time. And how you use your time is important. But how does the concept of making small changes get you to a better life in other areas? What about your health? In 2011 I weighted about 256 pounds. Today I am at about 170 pounds. How did I do it? I did it by making small changes. Small changes over time can and will make a difference. And not just in time.

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These two pictures were taken of me four years apart. The first one was taken in June of 2011. The second was taken in June of 2014 with my friend and leader in Max International, Chad Statham from Texas. I achieved this goal by making some small but significant changes to my life. In the first picture, I was only able to walk literally across my living room. I was sick constantly. Energy was non-existent. But I learned to change. And I don’t regret it! I feel better than I have in years! So what did I do?

Well, first, I cried out to God, literally! I think on that first day I literally cried for over 30 minutes. And I started following Dr. Don Colbert. I first learned how to change my eating habits. Choosing to eat foods that Dr. Colbert describes as “living foods.” You can read more about that in any of his books. I also started exercising. Initially only by walking. Over time I learned to do stretches as well. I’ve also learned how to connect to healthier people and learned that I am like the 5 people I spend the most time with. I’ve added supplements to my diet and made other changes as well.

It has now been four years. And I’m well on my way to being the healthiest person I can be. And I’m also now teaching others what I’ve done. I don’t talk very often on here about Max International, because that is not my purpose here. But I am connected to it and it is one of the reasons I’m becoming the healthiest person I can be. Here is a picture of what I look like now.

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If you begin to make small changes in your life, over time, those small changes will lead to an amazing life. Until next time…And remember what Les Brown says, “You have greatness within you.” You can do it! If I can help, let me know.

Lessons from Kids

When I look at my kids I see the future. I also learn a lot. They are a blessing! They are behind every dream I have. They are the reasons for my goals. Recently a friend of mine has began to help me take my health back in a huge way. His name is Dr. Luis Fuentes. He is the Medical Director of Health Med Plus in Miami, Florida. Luis is a Doctor of Oriental Medicine. If you are in his area I strongly recommend you go see him. He is so caring and unbelievably smart! But to me, he is simply my friend. Something I am incredibly thankful for. What can we learn from kids? We learn that it is okay to have fun! Healthy kids do have fun. But healthy kids are also learning new things. Something we should all be doing. Healthy kids spend time with friends and family. They have balance in their lives. So how many of us are doing that? Do we have balance in our lives? Do we go to church or something along those lines? Are we getting out and having fun? For a few days recently I spent some time tracking what I did with my time. And I realized something: I don’t have balance as well as I should! So now I’m working on changing that. Luis is helping me. I still have Reggie Cochran working with me. The one thing they are both working with me on is getting healthier than I’ve ever been. And slowly it is coming together. And they are doing it by teaching me to work hard, work smart and have balance! Luis said something the other day on Facebook that is worth repeating when it comes to healthcare. “The biggest problem these days is everyone is selling natural products as if they were drugs. All of them work better if a patient addresses the basics of health. Proper nutrition, peace with God, and the treatment of the physical “machine” the body, by a qualified practitioner such a chiropractor or related.” If we think about it, don’t we teach our kids this, or shouldn’t we? If we are addressing the basics then some if not most of the medical problems we have would very possibly go away, or at least be reduced. We need to be eating healthy. We need to have peace with God and if we have that then we will have peace in all the other areas as well. Finally we need to treat our bodies well. How do we do that? Eating right is certainly part of it. But there is more to it than that. 3 John 1: 2 says “Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospereth.” The bible says clearly that God wants us to prosper in our health as much as our soul. So the choice is all of ours. We need to be living a healthy, balanced life. Something that we expect kids to do. If we expect that from kids, shouldn’t we expect it out of ourselves too? And look at what happens when we don’t. We get sick. Sometimes it costs people their lives. People die from heart attacks, suicide, cancer, and many other things. All to often these situations come about from unhealthy lives in general. To much stress. Not eating healthy. Not having a time to rest. Now, we all know that life can get crazy at times. But how we handle that can be done. And it is something I’m still learning. Something I’ve been learning is get some exercise, going for a walk is great for that, if your doctor approves. Another option is to listen to some relaxing music. You can find some on YouTube. Or you can talk to a friend. There are ways to address stress in our lives is the bottom line. I’ve also learned from experience is to set goals and then come up with a plan to make them a reality. Dreaming big is a great way to come up with goals. If you think about it, dreaming big is no harder than dreaming small. Reggie & I talked about this recently. You can set the goal of becoming a black belt in Tae Kwon Do, or you can set the goal of becoming a World Class Black Belt. Both are goals and great ones at that. But which is going to be more worthwhile? Bottom line: set your goal and go for it! Until next time… God bless you!