DANCE to Success

Over the past few years I’ve become friends with several people who are black belts in different martial arts areas. While they are black belts in different areas, some qualities stand out that are very important to learn from. And they are incredibly successful at what they do. To be successful you need to DANCE!

You need to DELIVER what you promise. They make commitments to teach their students. That is how they deliver. And they are the best at what they do! That is how they became black belts!

Next, you need to AFFIRM others and be NICE to them. When they say that they are your friend, there is no reason to doubt it! I really enjoy talking to these friends and I am so blessed to be able to call them my friends. There is a saying that to have a friend, be a friend. I truly believe that without friends, you are not successful. Affirming and being nice is so simple! And takes very little time.

You have to be CONFIDENT in what you believe. If you believe you can be successful, you will be! Have confidence and go after what you want. One of my goals that I have no doubt that I will achieve is to become a black belt myself. And I have no doubt that this will happen. What you want to see happen may be hard. You will have to be willing to push through the times that you want to quit, but if you don’t quit, you will become a success!

And finally, you need to be willing to EDUCATE. I home-schooled my kids for 9 years. One of the things I learned is that if you want to know if have mastered something, you need to be able to teach it. Masters show in martial arts that they have mastered it by teaching!  So, DANCE to success! And become a master! Have a blessed 2016!

 

 

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Motivation: Where Do I Find It?

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We all have ” those” days. Days when you just want to give up and throw in the towel and say it just isn’t worth it.  I’ve talked about this before and I knew that the time would come when I would need to address it again. The past couple of  weeks have been challenging to say the least. My kids have started school and to be honest I’ve questioned why am I taking on so much? I’m a writer, have an internet based business that I run, take care of my house, get my kids to and from different activities and just life in general. So what have I been doing to push forward?

  1. I’ve taken some time and just re-evaluated why I’m doing what I’m doing! That is why it’s important to write out your goals.
  2. I’ve talked to some friends and told them what I was struggling with and asked for prayer and for input on how to keep on pushing on.
  3. I  re-read my own blog! Almost all of what I’ve written here has come out of my own struggles. And doing that has reminded me of why I’m doing what I’m doing.
  4. I took some time and listened to some motivational audios. Les Brown and Tony Robbins are among my favorites. I also spend some additional time on World’s Greatest Mentors. Including doing the self-hypnosis that is available there.
  5. I spent some time listening to just some praise and worship music.
  6. I listened to some of my favorite preachers.
  7. I read a book just for fun. This time I read “Before Anne of Green Gables.”
  8. I started a new activity. I’ve joined Toastmaster’s International.
  9. I focused even more on my business.
  10. I got more work done on my book that I’ve been writing. And I’ll actually be done with that by the end of this week!
  11. I wrote out what I’ve accomplished this year.  Seeing in black & white what has been done can be incredibly motivating! And will encourage you to push for more!
  12. I made exercise a priority.

When you want to quit, you have to keep on pushing forward. So keep on pushing on. If I can, ANYONE can! Remember what Les Brown says: “You have greatness within you!”

Priorities: Putting things in Order

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What do your priorities look like? Do you have things set up correctly? I am a Christian and that does dictate my priorities to a large degree. My priorities are listed this way:

  1. God: If I expect Him to direct my steps then I have to listen to what He says to me.
  2. Myself! Yes, I put myself as a priority. How can I handle anything else if I’m not taking care of myself?
    1. Priority setting. Is what I’m actively doing taking care of me?
    2. Health: Am I eating what I need to eat to be in the best physical shape I can be in?
    3. Exercise: What am I doing on a daily basis to get off the chair/bed/couch?
    4. Mental health: What am I doing to keep my mind healthy?
      1. That includes having some fun! So what am I doing just for fun?
      2. Growing: I am a learner, I love to learn new things! And this is a priority for me. I am also learning to teach others more effectively!
      3. Meditation/relaxation time. This is  a little different than prayer. While I do pray, I  also take time to just rest and quiet my mind and literally do nothing for a few minutes every day.
      4. Positive affirmations: An incredibly important part of my day. I do it typically first thing every morning.
  3. My kids come next. They are still growing up and I make sure they get what they need.
  4. My husband. I’ve been told that I need  to have him over my kids, but circumstances that I won’t tell here dictate that my kids come before him.
  5. My career. I am a writer and an entrepreneur. If I expect my work to be done, I have to make sure that I do the work. I don’t have a boss, except my calendar. If I expect my goals to be met, I have to do the work. In my work time I have certain things that I have to make sure I get done.
    1. Goal setting! I can’t reach goals that haven’t been set.
    2. Phone calls, and contacting people. In network marketing I have to contact people. Typically people won’t just say “hey I want to join your company.” I do have one person on my team that joined that way, but she is the exception. Not the rule.
    3. Writing. I am writing a novel. It won’t write itself, so I have to do the work.

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ROAR

It’s important to have your own voice. In the song, Roar, by Katy Perry, we hear these words:

“Roar”

I used to bite my tongue and hold my breath
Scared to rock the boat and make a mess
So I sat quietly, agree politely
I guess that I forgot I had a choice
I let you push me past the breaking point
I stood for nothing, so I fell for everything

You held me down, but I got up (HEY!)
Already brushing off the dust
You hear my voice, you hear that sound
Like thunder gonna shake the ground
You held me down, but I got up (HEY!)
Get ready ’cause I’ve had enough
I see it all, I see it now

[Chorus:]
I got the eye of the tiger, a fighter, dancing through the fire
‘Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me roar
Louder, louder than a lion
‘Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me roar
Oh oh oh oh oh oh oh
Oh oh oh oh oh oh oh
Oh oh oh oh oh oh oh
You’re gonna hear me roar

Now I’m floating like a butterfly
Stinging like a bee I earned my stripes
I went from zero, to my own hero

You held me down, but I got up (HEY!)
Already brushing off the dust
You hear my voice, you hear that sound
Like thunder gonna shake the ground
You held me down, but I got up (HEY!)
Get ready ’cause I’ve had enough
I see it all, I see it now

[Chorus:]
I got the eye of the tiger, a fighter, dancing through the fire
‘Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me roar
Louder, louder than a lion
‘Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me roar
Oh oh oh oh oh oh oh
Oh oh oh oh oh oh oh
Oh oh oh oh oh oh oh
(You’re gonna hear me roar)
Oh oh oh oh oh oh oh
Oh oh oh oh oh oh oh
(You’ll hear me roar)
Oh oh oh oh oh oh oh
You’re gonna hear me roar…

Ro-oar, ro-oar, ro-oar, ro-oar, ro-oar

I got the eye of the tiger, a fighter, dancing through the fire
‘Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me roar
Louder, louder than a lion
‘Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me roar
Oh oh oh oh oh oh oh
Oh oh oh oh oh oh oh
Oh oh oh oh oh oh oh
(You’re gonna hear me roar)
Oh oh oh oh oh oh oh
Oh oh oh oh oh oh oh
(You’ll hear me roar)
Oh oh oh oh oh oh oh
You’re gonna hear me roar…

Are you ready to have your own voice? I am and I’m making changes. That is why I’ve been so quiet recently. You have to have your priorities straight. Sometimes that means that you have to cut some things out for a while. Right now I’m focusing on my business and you will see the in the new blog posts that I’m going to be doing how these changes are carrying over into every area of my life. Including here. So pay attention. ROAR!!!! Have a great day and remember what Les Brown says: you have greatness within you.

Belief in YOURSELF!

A certain woman was told that she could write and do some things incredibly well. And she realized that she did the things that she was told she could do very easily. But then other people came along and told her that she should focus on other things and let this go. She listened to them and left the things that she loved behind and began to focus on the things she was told to focus on. Over time life continued on. And the dreams that she had were pushed further and further down until the day came that she forgot about them. That was the day that without her realizing it she began to die. But over time as her life went on she gradually began to think back on the times that she was happiest. She began to long for the joy that she had. And gradually some people would come into her life that encouraged her to look at those dreams again. So she did. And gradually she began to revisit those dream until the day came that she decided that she would pursue those dreams again. Only this time the other people wouldn’t stop her. She decided she was worth it. And she could do it.

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ATTENTION to ALL Leaders!

I have been working on several different projects for the past couple of weeks. Including learning some new things for becoming an effective leader. Yesterday Reggie posted something that I’ve decided to make into a blog entry.

“Attention all people in a Leadership position…. You have a responsibility to lead your team, business, board (insert whatever you are supposed to be leading) by example. A true leader (who really cares about those they are leading) will have a do as I do lifestyle. Not a do as I say double standard. You are in that position to serve. Not be served. You are in a position to build others up. Not for others to stroke your ego and elevate you. You are there to help create the best results possible based on facts, logic & proven principles. Not create things based on your own personal selfish desires or agenda. You owe it to the people counting on you, to be the best YOU that YOU can be, in all areas of your life possible. If you don’t have your personal life together, it can and many times will, negatively affect your leadership abilities. So if you don’t have self control, ethics or morals, you probably should not be in a position where your decisions affect others. If you can’t walk your talk and lead by example… step aside until you can. If you have skeletons in your closet that are keeping you distracted, depressed, or in continual fear that people will find out about them… step aside until you clean your closet. If you find yourself not making positive changes because you are personally uncomfortable with the changes needed… step aside. If you are not willing to educate yourself as much as possible, before you make decisions that affect others, step aside until you are ready to do so. If you are challenged by other peoples success, instead of looking for ways to help them succeed, step aside until you can. If you are not willing to admit when you make a mistake and are not willing to help correct those mistakes.. step aside. What you want to do with your own life is up to you. But… when you are in a leadership position, it’s up to you to make sure what you do and how you do it, is best for those you are supposed to be leading. In today’s world… we need STRONG leaders that wake up excited to lead by example and serve. But unfortunately… we have too many people in leadership positions that are waking up just to be served…… Reggie Cochran

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